Believe it or not there are two types of marriage, the so-called love marriage and the arranged marriage.
Most people today don’t agree with arranged marriages but there are some people who have no say in the matter. Although the arranged marriage is not as desirable as the love marriage it does have its advantages. Relationships are the most important things in life. And marriage is one of the most important relationships. Having said that, it becomes even more important who arranges the marriage, whether its ourselves or someone else like our parents or friends. The issue has taken the place of an important social problem. Different people have different opinions coming from different age groups from the different parts of the world.
Marriage as we can see is a commitment of spending the rest of our life with someone. This has a great impact on our life, career and personality. So, should we let our parents decide so much for us? To start with, it can be answered positively. They are more experienced and well-placed in the society. They understand people better and thus, understand us better than we do sometimes. Moreover, being our parents, they want the best for us all the time. Arranged marriages are a convenient way of getting married, the pressure for finding a partner is shared by the family and the chances of being left on the shelf are less likely. Also arranged marriages are often better planned marriages and tend to be planned many years in advance.
Parents start saving for their children’s wedding day from almost the time when the child is born. The tradition of having an arranged marriage keeps the family happy. It is often the dream of most parents to see their child married off to a respectable family, ideally in a respectable fashion. They also provide stability for both parties and they have a lower divorce rate, but I think this is due to the fact that the family would not approve of divorce. It may seem to be as simple but in reality it is not. The choice of our life partner should have our say in it. Of course! How can we marry someone who we don't know? Is it possible to stay along with the person and share everything that we have in our life?
From this point of view it may not look sensible at all. Considering that all of us has the right to decide for ourselves once we are grown up and matured, the right of the choosing our life partner should be given to us and no one else unless of course we forfeit it to someone else. Coming back to the arguments, we can see around us and observe how many 'love marriages' have been successful? In some parts of the world they stay in but unfortunately in many other places the fail to develop into life-long relationships.
The mostly young couples complain of misunderstandings, concealed truths about each other and making a 'hurried and emotional decision', which they regret. Most of them mentally suffer because of this and their performance goes down. They go on, to face social and psycho logical problems and life-long in some cases. The only lesson that can be taken from these cases is not to repeat their mistakes.
We have to try to rely on our parents' goodwill and wisdom. We have to let our parents arrange our marriages.
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